The last 6 years I’ve had a very love hate relationship with my body. Before getting in a long term relationship I was a size 8, enjoying amateur modelling. Now I am a size 18/20 mum, who is learning to love herself, and be body confidence. Although I’m a long way of returning to modelling. I’m enjoying learning style over size. And how to be happy.
Mostly through self care, I’ve made small changes to my diet, a little introduction to exercise though this is a big struggle with anxiety. Due to my huge educational career goals, I’ve learnt how to manage stress, and plan my time, to have both productive and rest days. I’m very much guilty of enjoying a glass of gin and lemonade the odd evening.
Finding plus size friendly brands is a struggle. Finding clothes that fit me, or I feel are flattering is so difficult for me. As I’m very self conscious of my tummy. I feel like everything I wear shows it up in a bad light. But I am learning more about my style everyday, especially to be more confident in my size by dressing appropriately for my hourglass figure.
A big help to me learning my style, is using a service called Stitch Fix. It’s a subscription service, with access to stylists. For a small fee per box, and a quick profile made, a variety of different stylists takes your clothing sizes and style profile and send you a curated box of fashion to try. What you like you buy and keep, and what you don’t like, you send back, free of charge. Whichever item you choose to buy, the £10 styling fee is discounted off what you buy. Also if you love entire box, you get a 20% buy all discount. A great thing about this, is you can schedule fixes when you want them.
I personally go for one every 3 months, in line with seasonal changes. But you could have it monthly if you prefer. They go up to a dress size 18. I enjoy getting my box, and highly recommend giving them a go. Click here to give it a go. They have men’s fashion as well. As well as a US version too, for my American readers. This is in no way an ad, just a genuine recommendation.
I’ve also started to unfollow certain accounts, only following accounts of a similar body type to me, or accounts that I positively enjoy following. Filling your feed with images you enjoy will boost your self happiness. Aid in learning that you can be stylish and positive about your personal style. Seeing body types I feel are similar to mine, in trendy and stylish clothing, helps improve my mindset.
I have subscribed to some fitness channels, to hopefully improve my levels and also help reduce anxiety, build confidence. This will be an ongoing challenge through 2022, but I am ready for it.
I also hope with these changes, and an improvement in my mindset and discipline, I can use my Instagram to put forward a more confident improved version of myself. I have also attended a Ms Curvaceous workshop, which is all about promoting body positivity and confidence. It was amazing to be in a room with people in the same position as myself, and a great chance to network, even though with me being very shy, was a challenge too.
I have given birth to a new blog adventure too! More details will be on one of the 2 posts due to drop on NEW YEARS EVE! But a hint, Chasing Becky.
4 thoughts on “Love yourself 💖”
My weight has fluctuated my entire life. My unhealthy size is a size 7 and also a size 14. At both ends of the spectrum, I am unhealthy. I find the size ai am now, 30 sizes 10 I believe to be my healthiest and most confident, although, at size 14, I carry it well. I am 5’10 so skinny look ad on me and too much weight, I look like a football player😂 I am fortunate to be at my happy medium at the moment but I do have to watch it or I’ll be on the unhealthy, not so confident end before I know it. Body image acceptance plays a role in our mindset. An important one. Sending encouraging vibes your way.
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I agree it’s all about mindset, so that’s where I’m looking at improving, I’ve loved hearing your story, thanks for sharing x
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I find the size I am now, a size 30/10 I believe**